Human design not only supports us in finding more flow and ease in our own lives, it also helps us understand how to support and love on those close to us — our partners, kids, friends, collaborators or family members.
So today, I wanted to share some relationship tips, unique needs, and what a supportive co-pilot may look like (in life and in love) for each human design type.
Manifestors
It’s important that those in relationship with me…
- Give me freedom and space to do my own thing.
- Remind me of the impact I’ve had on them and the world.
- Honor my need for rest and time alone.
- Go on an exciting journey with me, trying something new.
- Take the lead when I let them know it’s time for them to step up and for me to receive.
- Honor how sacred it is to be let into my powerful energy and allow themselves to be provoked, inspired and transformed by me.
- Embolden me and support me in carving my own path and going where no one else has gone.
Some of my unique needs include having others…
- See my passion, power, and impact as gifts – as things for me to step fully into, not run away from. (It’s important others do not try to temper my passion or power because it feels like too much or they can’t match it.)
- Support me staying in my flow and doing things in my way. I thrive when I feel empowered and in control, setting the terms of how I do things and when.
- Honor that time and space alone is essential for my well-being and allows me to show up when it’s time to show up. (They do not make me wrong for needing time alone.)
- Support me in doing things in a new way and reminding me that doing things differently creates powerful impact in the world around me. (They do not expect me to walk a path that’s been walked before.)
Supportive co-pilots are people who…
- Value my need for freedom and support me in working in a way that works for me (e.g., creative bursts.)
- Are expanded by my power, not threatened by it, and remind me often how powerful and impactful I am.
- Are inspired to support my vision and who value my gift of initiating and getting things off the ground.
- Are open and ready to be initiated, provoked, and transformed by me.
- Honor my need for space, time, and rest alone.
- Know how to communicate with me and/or are open to learning (e.g., keeping me in the loop and not pestering me with questions.)
Projectors
It’s important that those in relationship with me…
- Go deep with me.
- Ask me questions and invite in my perspective.
- Gift me opportunities to relax and recharge or to dive deep into something I’m passionate about.
- Offer words of affirmation that make me feel understood, seen and known.
- Honor my need for rest and time alone, and always check in to see what I have the energy for.
- Let me see all of them and remind me how deeply seen I make them feel.
Some of my unique needs include having others…
- Support me in creating success on my terms and at my pace, even if my path looks different than theirs. (They do not expect me to keep up with them or to be a consistent doer.)
- Honor that time and space alone is essential for my well-being and allows me to show up when it’s time to show up. (They do not make me wrong for needing time alone.)
- Value my perspective and see it as the gift it is. I know they may not always be ready to hear what I see (and I won’t share it with them until you’re ready), but it’s important my insights are not ignored or undervalued.
- Know I see through things easily and into others deeply, so if they want to connect, it’s important to go deep together rather than stay at the surface. I am gifted at seeing others deeply and thrive when I feel seen in return.
Supportive co-pilots are people who…
- Treasure me, recognize my gifts and create opportunities for me to share my gifts with the world.
- Don’t expect me to go, go, go all day long and who give me space when I need it.
- See my gifts and let me know what they see.
- Desire to go deep with me and to be deeply seen.
- Treasure my perspective and invite it in often, taking action on my guidance and the insights I offer.
- Bring the generative capacity to support me and help bring my dreams to life.
Generators
It’s important that those in relationship with me…
- Prioritize my excitement and joy.
- Create opportunities for me to do something I’m lit up by.
- Take things off my plate that continually drain and deplete me, honoring my energy as the precious resource it is.
- Spend time with me doing something that brings me joy.
- Remind me how grateful they are for my energy and how precious my energy is.
- Honor my boundaries and the truth of my gut response (e.g., not asking me to explain it), and ask me specific yes/no questions to help me drop into my gut.
Some of my unique needs include having others…
- Support me in prioritizing my joy and reminding me it’s not selfish to do so. Rather, it’s the thing that allows me to brighten and uplift the world around me. (They do not treat my excitement as secondary.)
- Give me options or ask me specific, yes/no questions that drop me into my gut. (They do not ask open-ended questions and expect immediate clarity.)
- Support me in following my gut feeling, even when I can’t explain it. My gut doesn’t come with a reason – it’s a felt sense that something is right for me or not. (They help me trust my gut rather than ask me to explain it.)
- Honor my boundaries and not expect me to handle something simply because I can. They help me stay aligned by committing to what I am the most energized to do, not just what I can do.
Supportive co-pilots are people who…
- Prioritize my excitement and know when I’m lit up by what I’m doing, they’ll benefit too.
- Know how to communicate with me and/or are open to learning (e.g., asking me specific questions and giving me things to respond to.)
- Honor the truth of my gut response and don’t require me to explain it.
- Take things off my plate that are draining me and encourage me to let go of what’s no longer for me.
- Value my energy as precious and powerful.
- Create opportunities for me to do what lights me up.
Manifesting Generators
It’s important that those in relationship with me…
- Prioritize my excitement and joy.
- Support me in pivoting when I feel called to.
- Create opportunities for me to do something I’m lit up by and spend time with me doing things that bring me joy.
- Take things off my plate that continually drain and deplete me, honoring my energy as the precious resource it is.
- Remind me how expansive and uplifting my passion can be for the world around me.
- Do not try to keep up with or do as much as me.
- Honor my boundaries and the truth of my gut response (rather than asking me to explain it), and ask me specific yes/no questions to help me drop into my gut.
Some of my unique needs include having others…
- Embrace my passion and power as my gifts – as things for me to step into fully, not run away from. (It’s important others do not try to temper my passion or power because it feels like too much or because they can’t match it.)
- Support me in charting my own path and doing things differently, even when they haven’t seen it done this way before. (It’s important others do not expect me to do something like others have done it.)
- Support me in following my gut, even what I can’t explain it. My gut doesn’t come with a reason – it’s a felt sense that something is right for me or not. (It’s important others help me trust my gut rather than ask me to explain it.)
- Honor my ever-evolving nature and support me in pivoting when my energy is no longer there for something. This doesn’t make me flaky – I move fast and trying on (and letting go of) things is part of my process. It’s important others support me in prioritizing my excitement and honoring my multi-passionate nature.
Supportive co-pilots are people who…
- Prioritize my excitement and know when I’m lit up by what I’m doing, they’ll benefit too.
- Know how to communicate with me and/or are open to learning (e.g. asking me specific questions and giving me things to respond to.)
- Admire and are inspired by my speed and power, but are not in competition with it.
- Give me space to be in my own creative flow, moving in between different projects when inspired.
- Don’t make me wrong for letting go of commitments that are no longer for me, but instead, encourage it.
- Honor the truth of my gut response.
Reflectors
It’s important that those in relationship with me…
- Take me to spaces that they know I love being (e.g., my favorite cafes, restaurants and parks.)
- Invite in my perspective and honor it as the gift it is.
- Check in on what I’m feeling and what feels like the most aligned use of my energy today (rather than assuming it’s the same as yesterday.)
- Gift me experiences to relax, reset and nourish myself, or time to be in my favorite spaces around my favorite people.
- Offer words of affirmation and share with me how much they value my uniqueness and treasure who I am.
- Take good care of their energy, so I can be uplifted and nourished by their presence.
Some of my unique needs include having others…
- Honor my sensitivity to my space.
- Appreciate that I experience life in a different and rare kind of way, seeing and sensing things that many don’t. It’s important others do not expect me to operate like they do.
- Honor that time alone is essential for my well-being and allows me to show up when it’s time to show up.
- Honor my fluidity in how I express myself, and that my gift is leaning into my many ways of expressing myself rather than choosing just one. It’s important to meet me where I am and to not expect me to show up in the same way, day after day.
- Value my perspective and see it as the gift it is. Others may not always be ready to hear what I see (and I won’t share until they’re ready), but it’s important my insights don’t feel ignored or undervalued.
Supportive co-pilots are people who…
- Honor that I’m unique and different and meant to do things in my own way.
- Meet me where I am.
- Honor my sensitivity to space and take good care of their own energy, knowing how attuned I am to what they’re feeling and going through.
- Treasure my perspective and invite it in often, taking action on my guidance and the insights I offer.
- Honor my need for space, rest, and time alone.
- Bring the generative capacity to support me and help bring my dreams to life.
